Viva la Vida
Your Durance is the trouble you went through when you were kidnapped by the Gentry. They tore you apart emotionally, and somehow, in some way, they fucked you over for good. This is how they did it.
Everyone’s Durance is different. Some had to cut hedges. Some had to hunt. Some were infused with magic, and others got that way over time from Arcadia’s magic. Your Durance always shows in your Seeming. Always.